Here’s the thing that struck me – the birthday girl is focused on her fitness and weight loss path. She’s working hard and watching what she eats. She’s there in class to straight slay some calories. But then, she’s bombarded by temptation – the exact sugary goodness she’s trying to avoid.
When you’re focused and have a goal, the last thing you need is temptation. A lot of people who aren’t personally working towards a fitness goal don’t consider that many of their friends ARE.
Here’s where being a good fitness friend is important. If you know your friend is working towards a goal – don’t sabotage them. Be considerate of them and their healthy lifestyle goals.
Instead of asking to meet for drinks, ask to meet and go for a walk. Honestly, one of my best friends and I meet for walks and treadmill runs instead of dinner and drinks. We get to talk, hang out, get our girl time in and still burn some calories. Fun with no calories involved. (That sounds like the name of an awful Health and PE pamphlet.)
Here’s what happened for one of my bestie’s birthdays just the other day. I know she’s watching her calories and working on some fitness goals, but it was her birthday – and I think EVERYONE should celebrate their birthday. So, I texted her and said I know she was watching her food choices now but that I’d love to make her a low calorie birthday cake, if she wanted it. I even presented her the option of passing on cake and just opening presents instead. That way SHE got to make the decision on if she wanted the (low calorie) cake or not. After she said she did, I then texted her the number of calories so she could know (200 if anyone’s curious.) This let us get together to celebrate and not stray from our goals.
Let’s face it – our friends and family influence us. They help shape us into who we are, they are who we hang out with, who we emulate.
You know that trying to eat well and exercise is hard enough without temptations, so try to be a good fitness friend and not put roadblocks up to derail your friend’s goals.
Heck, I’ve seen well-meaning friends and coworkers push someone to “just eat one piece of cake” or “one ice cream cone won’t hurt you.” That peer pressure, though maybe in jest, is hard to resist. If you see someone with a fitness goal that they’re working toward, be a good friend. Don’t tempt them with food and drinks. Support them in their goal. You’d certainly want the same thing.
Remember the golden rule, guys: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. #thatmeansnocupcakes
Stay Strong Fitness Friends!